Job #1 is removing the pre-installed wire/terminals from the connector. This was a bit fiddly trying to get the de-pinning tool onto the terminal sweet spot, but once you figure out the first two, the rest are pretty easy to do. There's a slight click or thud when the tool hits home which indicates both tangs are now depressed enough to pull the wire/terminal out of the back of the connector. If you have it right, the wire/terminal comes out very easily.
I did run into one terminal which was a real PITA to remove and after it came out, you can see where the tang was bent back on itself. The trick is to let the tool do it's job. If both tangs are correctly depressed, the terminal wire will come out easily. If you're pulling on it and it won't come out, then reposition the tool and try again.
Now if you decide to go with these cheap 1-Euro tools, don't expect too much from them. The metal is soft and the "fingers" can twist and bend which results in them not lining up properly when inserted. One finger will be on one tang, but on the other side it won't be on the tang at all. I suspect this is how I ended up damaging one of the terminals shown below. So check that the fingers are correctly aligned if you can't seem to get the tangs to release.
In this case I was much less concerned with the condition of the wires/terminals than I was in not damaging the connector since this is going to be my replacement.
Next step will be de-pinning the rear light connector, and inserting OEM wire/terminals into the replacement connector. But as I"m running out of daylight, that will have to wait until tomorrow.
Start by sliding pink retaining clip out of the connector. A small jewelers screwdriver works perfectly -
Get the de-pinning tool lined up in the center of the terminal and press it into the connector. Be sure both fingers are on the outside of the terminal and not one finger on the outside and one finger into the terminal itself. There should be a click or thud and then you can try pulling the wire/terminal from the connector. If there's any resistance, remove the tool, reposition it and try again -
When the de-pinning tool is correctly positioned inside the connector, both tangs will be fully depressed. Only then will wire/terminal will come out easily from the connector -
Note the lower terminal has a tang bent over on itself. If you pull the wire/terminal out without the tang fully depressed, this is the result -
Be sure the fingers are not twisted and misaligned or it will only depress one tang and miss the other -
Seems to be a legit VAG part number, but the lack of any VAG logo makes it suspect.